Wednesday, 29 January 2014

My chill out zone

It was stinking hot last Tuesday in Melbourne.  I managed with the heat, for most of the day, but by about 4pm I was starting to lose it.  It also happened to be the last day of the school holidays here in Melbourne, after 6 long weeks.  I had entertained my kids, kept them occupied and amused, stopped World War III in my home (several times) as they had constantly battled with each other, had tried my best to keep the house looking like a home rather than a bomb site and all the other usual stuff.  We all had fun, I must say I enjoyed it.........but late that day I was more than sure that I had had enough and was definitely ready for school to begin.  
My three year old daughter is fast becoming more and more of a challenge as time goes on so late in the day, I was starting to lose my grip.  I was hot, tired, mentally drained from the constant demands on me for my attention, I needed to go grocery shopping as I didn't have much in the house, I had to get dinner ready for the family and get the kids into bed early for their big day at school the next day.  It was not good, to say the least.......but a few hours later it was night time, my mob were fast asleep and it was just me, my Stardust radio and my blog........I was in one of my very special and favourite places, I was in my chill out zone!
Don't know about you, but if I didn't find this time to enjoy my own company and relax in the best way possible for me, I'd be one very unhappy lady.  Do you have a chill out zone?  What do you do to relax and unwind?  If you don't have your own special 'zone', then get one, get one quick, especially if you have kids like me, as I can tell you that it does me the world of good.  If you are unsure about how to find your own zone, let me tell you what works for me and maybe I can give you some ideas.
At this stage of my life, now that I'm 40 something, a mother of 3 kids that is mostly at home doing 'mum stuff', one of the best things I have done for myself is start 'Live a Little, Love a Lot'.  I can write and write until the cows come home (and usually do), but if writing isn't your thing, that's OK, you can still find your own zone.  I have discovered over the years that it's all about satisfying the senses and once you take care of some of these with a few simple tricks, it is easy to relax, breathe again, feel good again about what you are doing and feel good again about where you are at.
If you're anything like me, by the time dinner is done and everyone is in bed, you are left with a disaster.  There are piles of dishes, countless bits and pieces to pick up off the floor and put away (to say the least) and you don't know where to start.  The first thing I do is turn the television off!  I can't stand it, drives me bananas and I'd rather get my mood organised with music.  Music is an amazing gift that can do many different things and make you feel many different ways.  I have a digital radio that works wonders for me with my favourite station, Stardust radio.  All it plays is old, easy listening stuff but it is great and I love it.  It doesn't matter what music you choose, as long as it is soothing rather than music that hypes you up.  So that's the first step, take care of your auditory sense and listen to something that makes you happy and calm.
Second step, the sense of smell.  I know this may sound a bit strange but don't under estimate the power of this sense.  I have an oil burner that I have had for years and it is still going strong.  I like to burn eucalyptus oil in it, I enjoy the aroma, it is fresh and sweet.  If you don't have an oil burner, scented candles or incense work just as well.  You'll be amazed that when you can smell a nice aroma, this instantly gives you a lift and is very relaxing. I guess this tip relies on the principles of Aromatherapy.
Third step, tantalise your taste buds and make yourself a warm, cosy drink.  For me, it's coffee, always coffee LOL!  I can drink it at anytime of the day or night for a 'feel good' drink.  Herbal tea, green tea, any tea really or drinking chocolate may work for you........but for me, I head straight for a strong, black coffee........that's me.  Have a drink, sit down for a minute, listen to your 'happy music', breathe in the aroma of your special scent and before you know it, you may start to feel better again.  It's at this stage that I head for my blog, if it strikes my fancy and spend about an hour or so writing, but you may like to do something else that you have wanted to do, by yourself, in peace and quiet.......and now you can.  Or maybe you are OK now and can get stuck into your chores, ready for another day tomorrow.  Either way, you are there, you have made it, you are in your chill out zone and feel so much better!
I have a very long way to go in my journey as a mum, the pleasure and pain has only just begun.  I have quickly learnt, though, that I need strategies to help get me through for I am only human, not a machine.  If you have read this blog and can take something away from it, or it has made you smile and think that sunnyday397 is one funny lady, then I have succeeded.  I have succeeded by helping someone or giving someone a giggle somewhere at home or somewhere around the world and I have had loads of pleasure in doing it!  Sometimes we try very hard to live and love and it is not always easy but never fear, you and I will always have my little blog for fun and will do our best to live and love a lot :) xxx