Thursday, 21 March 2013

Simple pleasures are the best!

Feeling a bit washed out today but the day has ended very well and I'm reminded of a very simple fact.  The weather is changing in Melbourne and Autumn is setting in with full force. Not sure if this is mucking around with my body a bit, probably is.  Picked up the boys from school and had a good day with my lovely daughter and then The King of the Castle arrived home early.  As I finished off the grocery shopping and did some other bits and pieces, by the end of the day, as I was sitting and chatting with my man, I couldn't help but think a very happy thought.  My pantry and fridge were full for the week to feed this hungry home of mine, my husband and I were alive and well and enjoying each other's company, our kids were playing happily, my garden was growing, and everyone was 'home for dinner' (I'll explain that one later).  Yes, I was happy because these simple pleasures are the best!

It is so easy to lose sight of the basic, fundamental things that keep us well.  It is so easy to be constantly needing and wanting more and more.  Whether it be more money, more material possessions, more time to do other things, and basically forget just how good things really are.  In this world of constant marketing aimed at us, the consumers, to buy, buy, buy, it is so critical to stop and think, 'What more do I really need?' There is the never ending battle, for a lot of people, to stretch their dollar as far as it can go and I guess that this is just natural and normal.  While doing this, we may feel deprived or that we are 'missing out', but really, when you look at the big picture, for many of us, it's all OK and we have plenty.  Coping with our daily mood changes and feelings of sadness and anxiety can, and often do, take over and as I write this today, I hope that I can bring a little ray of sunshine into your world by highlighting a couple of very basic things (that you'll probably know well) that may help you realise that simple pleasures are the best!

I have a hungry home with 3 children that are growing more and more everyday.  My husband and I also enjoy a good, home cooked meal, and it is very rare for me not to cook each day.  I usually have to shop each week to top up our supplies and enjoy buying lean cuts of meat and fresh fruit and vegetables.  I love to cook so at least this works in my favour because my family also loves my cooking LOL.  One thing that really bothers me as a mum, is when I am running low on food and feel as though I can't feed everyone properly.  I was talking to a friend the other day about this and she said that this is a typical 'mother thing' as our natural instinct is to care and nurture our family.  I had to agree with her and today was what I call 'my big shopping day' when I had to restock pretty much everything!  I did the rounds at my local shops and when I got home and put it all away, I felt good. Good because my fridge and pantry were full.  Now as you read this you may think that this is a pretty basic thing, but I'll be completely honest and upfront and say that there have been times (thankfully not often) when my pantry and fridge have been far less than full and I have struggled to get a meal on the table.  It happens.  So when I have plenty of everything and I feel great because I know that all's well.

1996 was the year that I met my husband so we are in our 17th year together.  We have been pretty much inseparable since the day we met and I have often said that I love him today just as much as I did on the day that I married him.  We have learnt many important lessons together and have taught each other so much about life and love.  We have so much more life together ahead of us and we are both excited and happy about this.  Here you have one of the best and most simple pleasures of!  For those of you who love to love, who are looking for love or are learning to love, hold this dear to you as it is a magic and precious treasure that can't be bought or just is.  When you can't be bothered getting those routine, mundane jobs done, or when it all seems too hard and you feel low, just remember that if you have love in your life, you are miles ahead and have something that is true to you.  Love is a fundamental emotion that keeps us humans is amazing, often complicated but at the same time a simple pleasure that is truly fantastic.

As you know, we have 2 gorgeous boys that have big feet and are going to be tall men one day!  We also have a beautiful daughter with big blue eyes, blond hair and a determined and adorable personality.  Being a mother of 3 happy, healthy kids, was my dream for many years when I was younger and as much as I moan and groan about it, I know deep inside my heart and soul, how truly blessed I am to be able to say that I accomplished this and have a family of my own.  They scream and shout and carry on, make a mess, leave their clothes and shoes all over the place, have a constant need for attention, talk continuously, make lots of noise, and pretty much rarely give me a minute's peace.  So when I watch them happily going about their day, playing, laughing and talking together, I get an overwhelming sense of happiness and joy.  You know that I just can't say this enough, and my apologies if I sound a bit like a broken record here.  But for me, one of the most simple, yet demanding pleasures, is keeping my children happy and just can't get better than that!

Walking bare foot on the grass is a must to keep you grounded and in touch with nature.  Do I sound a bit wacky?  Well I probably do, but have you tried it lately?  Do me a favour and take your shoes and socks off and walk on the grass and feel the earth beneath your feet.  It does wonders for relaxation.  I thoroughly enjoy the nature around me and take much pride in my little patch of land where we live.  Spending time in the garden, whether that be working in it or just sitting and watching it grow, is one of my most simple and enjoyable past times.  I guess because my husband and I have planted absolutely everything you see in our garden as after we finished building our house, nearly 14 years ago, we were surrounded by mud, rocks and piles of dirt and you wouldn't recognise the place now.  Yes, take the time to look around you at the beauty of nature for a simple, yet peaceful and relaxing way to spend your time.

Tonight, everyone was home for dinner.  Thankfully, I can say that every night!  One day, a couple of years a go, David said to me, 'It's all good, we're all home for dinner'.  At the time, I didn't get it and thought what on earth was he on about.  But then the penny was another day and we were all together, alive and well.  We were all back home together at the end of the day, after each of us going on our separate ways, going about our day.  We were all back at home base and glad to be there.  If you stop to think about this for a minute, it's a powerful realisation.........for many people, they can't say that.  They may have had to face tragedy, crisis or trauma of some kind and were not going to be home for dinner. For us, we are lucky enough to be able to say that we WERE all home for dinner and wasn't that a beautiful thing?

So, my washed out day ended pretty well. I took the time to 'stop and smell the roses' and thank God for the simple things in life.  I try not to get too cliche and soppy when I write, and I hope that I haven't been too much this way in this blog.  My aim was to not only highlight to myself just how fortunate I am, but also to show you, the reader, how to value simple things in your day that can make you very happy when you take the time to stop and think about it.  Living a little and loving a lot was what I was doing today and I hope you were too :) xxx