Friday, 1 February 2013

Let's talk

Being an only child in a single parent household, and I guess me just being me helped too, I was always encouraged to join in on adult conversations and express myself.  I have to thank my mum for a lot of things but one thing that stands out very much to me now is how she talked to me from a very young age.  I have never had any trouble expressing myself LOL (as you read these blogs I'm sure you'll agree) and it just so happens that I can write as much as I can talk, and I just love a good gas bag.  Well, much to my amazement sometimes, as I watch my children growing, all 3 of them have always been big talkers too from a very young age.  When I wish they would just 'shoosh' sometimes, I have to smile and remember that I must have been just as bad, if not worse, when I was a kid!  It is always a great release, a good way to vent and now with 'Live a little, Love a lot', I can chit chat with the whole world (and you wonder why I get so excited?!?).  So, let's talk!

I pride myself on being just about as down to earth as I can get.  I like to say it as it is, be honest and trustworthy, treat people as I would like to be treated, love and respect my family and friends and at the same time, be tactful so that my words don't hurt.  When people speak and/ or write, they have the power to evoke many feelings, thoughts and emotions in others and it is a powerful tool in life.  When I was growing up, I must have 'put my foot in it' a thousand times and had to learn, quick smart, what to say and when to say it, and also very importantly, when to keep my mouth shut!  That was always a hard one for me because I'm a born talker, can 'talk the leg off a chair', 'sell ice to the eskimos'.......I'm sure you get the picture.  People that know me would have to agree, I'm sure, that when I am quiet, there is something very wrong LOL!

Self expression is a big deal for me.  There are those who go through life able to internalise everything and just deal with things in their own way and in their own time.  My mum's like that, she just drops off the radar for a while. I know that if I leave her alone for a while, eventually she'll sort it all out and then give me a call or pop over and then, when she is ready, will let me know what has been on her mind.  Funny enough, I married a man who is often thought of as the shy, quiet type who never says a lot and just smiles all the time.  Sometimes he does frustrate me when he hasn't got much to say.........but don't let this fool you.  There is much more to old Dave than meets the eye!  When the crunch comes to the crunch (oh, and usually after too many drinks), he has plenty to say and also calls a spade a spade.  Yes, I often feel truly blessed to have these special people in my life that understand and accept me, with all of my faults and weaknesses, and are always there to talk to when I have something to say.

My children never cease to amaze me.  It is interesting to see that they are such a combination of their parents, each with a little bit of me and a little bit of their dad.  They are all in the same in one way, they all need to have that 'one on one' time with me where they can just sit and talk about what is on their mind.  Sometimes it's a bit of a competition between them to see who can have mum all to themselves and I'm aware of this so I make the effort to give each of them the time that they need.  They each have different needs too but I'm never short of a conversation around here with my 3 little chatter boxes! That's great, I think, I want to encourage them to open up and feel that they can talk to me about anything..........mmm, we'll see how long that lasts because I do remember having lots of things that I wouldn't dare talk to my mum about when I was a teenager LOL!

I have some beautiful friends in my life too and I feel very privileged to be able to know and care about so many different people.  My friends come from diverse backgrounds and cultures and each have their own beauty about them.  I value them very much.  One of the benefits of being a good communicator, is that you can relate to many different kinds of people, in many different ways and this is truly the best thing since sliced bread for me. I thank those people that I know and care about for giving me the time to carry on as I do because they understand that I just love to talk!  I can be as loud and as obnoxious as I want with some of my special friends and for that I am very grateful and feel very lucky.

So, if you ever have something you want to talk about, you know who to call LOL!  I will be there to share both the good and bad times with my family and friends and hopefully make a difference.  My tag line on my blog reads, 'A blog about living and loving, written with honesty and integrity, that takes the good and the bad, and aims to make sense of it all'.  That's pretty much it, that's pretty much me.  I try to remain positive, with two feet planted firmly on the ground and get through life as best as I can.......and if I can help someone else do this too in some way, I am thrilled.  As I write and write about whatever it is that is on my mind and display it for the whole world to read, I thank my lucky stars that I CAN do this and will always be happy to talk about it :) xxx