Monday, 18 February 2013

If only love paid the bills.......

It was a hot one today in Melbourne.  The skies were blue and the sun was shining in full force.  It was a difficult day, as just getting around and trying to do what you normally do, became increasingly difficult as the day went on and got hotter and hotter.  My little girl was a handful as she is so determined to do her own thing all the time and most days are a constant battle getting her to co-operate.  The boys still had to get to and from school and had activities after school which I didn't want them to miss.  So we all sweltered in the heat and just hoped for the best.  

My husband, David, came home very hot and bothered and it was just one of those days.  We managed to settle the kids into bed eventually and took the time to sit, relax, have a quiet drink and we usually do.  We were both in one of those moods where the topic of conversation was how can we better our situation, how can we achieve more, or more to the point and to be perfectly honest with you, how can we earn more money.  I said with a sigh, as I often do, 'If only love paid the bills!'

Okay, I'm going to say it like it is, 'Money makes the world go around'.  Whether you like it or not, or want to believe it or not, this is the cold, hard fact.  I was taught from a young age that you get nothing for nothing in this life, and if you want something, you have to work for it.  This applies to personal goals and achievements too, not just paying the bills.  As a young person, I had a good appreciation of the value of a dollar, but I was busy being a kid and had no idea about what it meant to have financial commitments, who ever does when you're young?  I did know that in life it was vital to have a good job because without one, you wouldn't get paid a lot.  I watched my mother and my grandmother work very hard all the time and knew that in life you must work. This was how it was, I knew that.

As my boys make their way through Primary School, I try to instill in them that every year at school, no matter how 'junior' it may seem, is important.  I am trying to teach them this basic principle, 'You want to be able to buy things, you need a good income, and to get a good income, you need to do well at school'.  Well, for most of us this is the case.  Even if my kids hit the jackpot and strike it lucky in some other way later on in their adult life, believing in the the value of good education can't hurt!

My husband and I have always worked together, sharing common goals to get the job done.  We are driven people always striving for better and better, reaching for the stars and we never say never. I wouldn't say that we are materialistic people by any means and often wonder why some others always want 'bigger and better'.  I guess it is human nature to want a 'bigger house' in a 'better suburb', a 'bigger car' that is 'better to drive', a 'bigger TV' that is 'better to watch' and generally just a 'bigger bank balance' because things would be just 'so much better'. But hang on a minute.........

For many of you reading this today, we're doing alright.  We are not hungry, we are not sick, we have a bed to sleep in and clothes on our back.  I must also add there are many others around the world that are not.  Many live in real poverty, have no access to quality education, decent housing or health care.  There are those living in severe hardship, or in seriously volatile relationships, in corrupt and criminal societies, just to name a few examples.  I'm sure there's a lot more to it than this, but I think you get my point. And here I am wanting 'more'.......I ask you, 'more' of what exactly?  I am a person that loves life and is full of love and have the nerve to say 'If only love paid the bills?'  I have thought that if love paid the bills, I'd be a very rich lady, but really, it's all a bit silly, isn't it?

As the old cliche goes, we must appreciate what we have, not what we haven't.  My family is fortunate that at the end of the day, we don't really go without anything. We work, we spend, we live.  It is so very easy to get wrapped up in the desire to want more and more, but I often step back, eventually after going full circle in my mind, and realise that there's not much more that we really need.  I haven't got the freedom or luxury to buy whatever I want, whenever I want because we live on a strict budget.  With a large family, we have to do it this way so that we survive.  I'm your typical consumer who just loves to go shopping and spend money and often get frustrated when I just can't go out and do this.  

But the bottom line is, what would I really buy that would benefit me anymore anyway?  The bills are paid, the pantry and fridge are full, I am living and breathing and can walk and talk!  My children are fit, healthy and active. My husband and I are happy in love.......and that's about it really.

If you've ever thought about any of this, have you come to the same conclusion that I have?  Have you had a bit of a reality check and decided to get over it?  Have you realised that 'bigger and better' is not the be all and end all?  I have.  One thing's for certain though, you can never have too much love in your life and no, you can't convert love into cash, you'll just have to pay the bills the usual way.  At the end of the day, all's well that end's well and I've decided that I'm just going to carry on 'living a little' and 'loving a lot' :) xxx