Tuesday, 1 January 2013

Birds of a feather stick together

What a classic golden oldie this one is!  I remember this saying as a kid and not really being completely sure what it meant.  I always had a few close friends, never really being one to hang around in a large group.  My friends were all a little bit different and I learnt some hard lessons along the way while I was growing up.  Now I have children of my own and as I watch them learn and grow, I am reminded of how important it is to 'keep them on the straight and narrow' and try to teach them the importance of positive influences in their lives.  I'm also well and truly grown up now myself and I have learnt the value of true friendship and how this is the way it goes- birds of a feather stick together!

I have said before that people come and go throughout your life and this is often beyond our control.  We all take our own path, twisting and turning, learning new things everyday and meeting new people.  For me, I usually click straight away with people, relating to them in some way.....or I don't.  First impressions are often the best impressions although I do acknowledge that you can't always judge a book by its cover.  I have always loved a good chat, surprise surprise, being told that I could 'talk the leg off a chair'.  My kids are the same, always talking about something, and as much as this really wears me out, they get this from me (LOL) and how can I blame them?!

I am fortunate enough to have known, and still know, some fantastic people.  I have some people in my life that I have known for many, many years and still keep in contact with.  These are my friends that have stood the test of time, those people that have stood by me through thick and thin and we just enjoy each other's company.  When I think about those people that have left my life just as quickly as they have entered it, I realise that maybe we just didn't have much in common, maybe never really understood each other, or for some, just couldn't be bothered.  I can appreciate that it 'takes one to know one' and the value in surrounding yourself with people that share your goals and morals, your outlook on life, make you laugh, make you cry and most importantly, make you feel good!

Each day has it's ups and downs and one of the most important aims that I have is to surround myself with POSITIVE people.  Sure, we can all get a bit flat from time to time and just feel plain miserable, but the relevance and value in being around people that bring you up, not down, is enormous.  The old joke, you can't pick your family, rings true because you can certainly have a lot more control over your friends.  The glass should always be half full, not half empty, trying to find the solution not the problem all the time, are big keys.  I try to remain positive most of the time, see the funny side (or at least both sides), try to make the best of it, value life, loving and living and keep my chin up.  When you are around others that do their best at these things too, it can't help but rub off on you and give you a bit of a boost.  Life's too short to be pessimistic, or to worry about what should have been or what could have been.  When you want it, go out and get it- grab 'the bull by the horns' and run!

This seems to happen whether we like it or not, it just works out this way.  As I've always thought, if you're on 'the same wave length' as someone else, you automatically connect, this is only natural.  We tend to understand some people better than others, some people make us feel a certain way and it's so wonderful to be around like minded people that are going in the same direction that you are, that share your dreams and lift you up.  We are all very much individuals and no two people are the same, but it is a classic saying that rings so true and birds of a feather really DO stick together!