Friday, 21 December 2012

M

We've all got one.  For some of us, we are one.  We always put this one in a very special place in our hearts.  We value and respect their point of view like no other.  We feel a way about them like no other.  We may even look like them.  We know that they'll always go above and beyond the call of duty to make sure we are okay.  Yes, I'm talking about our mothers.

I grew up in  a household of 2 women- just me and mum, with a southern Italian background where it's all about 'the family'.  As you can imagine, at times this was pretty intense.  Being the only daughter of the only daughter in my family, I grew up knowing that my mum was a special person for a number of reasons.  Her days of marriage didn't work out so she raised me on her own, with the guts, strength and determination of a soldier.  For her, she just had to make it work, she had to raise me into a person that shared her morals and values, that had respect and understanding, because there was no alternative.  She is, and I'm sure always will be, a fiercely independent and capable woman, a woman who knows what she wants and goes out to get it.  She'll never give up on what she believes in.  That's my mum.

As a child, she knew it all.  I even put her in one of my paintings, over looking me and my world, with a book in her face because 'she knew everything about everything'.  I always looked up to her and had a happy childhood.  When I look back at my childhood, I don't remember going without anything, never feeling as though I was missing out.  She gave me a good start in life, nurtured and protected me with all her might. She was always very maternal and I was always loved and cared about.

As a teenager, I rebelled in a lot of ways like many of us do.  She made me angry and frustrated, it felt like she was over bearing and over protective. I was always trying to find ways to get out of the house and be with my friends, usually getting up to way too much mischief and I know she didn't like this.  I was difficult, and this would have stressed her out but she was always there, always ready to pick up the pieces when things fell apart.

As a young adult, my mum guided me through some tough times, never standing in my way when I was trying to find my feet.  She would always put me first, making sure that I had what I needed, emotionally and in a material way, so that I could cope with my new adult life.  We would laugh, we would cry and would always talk together about whatever was on our minds.  She became my mentor, someone who would encourage and help me make decisions and take action.  My mum has taught me many theories about life and living and I am strongly influenced by her.  She has always been a beautiful woman, and when she walks into a room, people notice.  She taught me how to value and respect myself.




Now I'm a mother myself.  I can say that it was not until this happened to me, that I could truly and completely understand the trials and tribulations of motherhood.  She is now not only a mum but a Nanna and she absolutely loves this.  She fusses over my kids and spoils them rotten (like all Nannnas do!) and she believes that if you haven't got your family close by your side, you've got nothing.  Now my mum sometimes leans on me, she asks me for my opinion and advice and we both work very hard (and my husband too) on raising my children in a positive way.  We share feelings and frustrations and are always in close contact.  We have fun and sometimes we have arguments and scream at each other a little bit, but hey, that's all normal.

Sometimes I just can't imagine my life without her, even to this day.  I have made my own way in life but even still, nothing and nobody will ever come close.  She is truly my guiding light, my mentor, my friend.  I have often wondered how she did it in the early days being in her 20s with a young child.  But that's my mum, she's one tough cookie yet also so very gentle and warm.  For those of you who know her, I hope that you have read this with a smile and said 'Yes, that's Anne!'  For those of you who have never met her, rest assured that she is one unique and talented woman, someone I will always be proud of and treasure.